Flow State Business

How I Reframed Everything After a Major Financial Setback

• Ruby Lee

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In this episode, I share how I processed something totally unexpected—something I hope not many people ever have to experience. But it also gave me a new perspective on how energy works, in both business and life.

From moments of excitement and abundance to times that feel challenging and heavy, this is about finding flow through it all.


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 Hello guys. Welcome back to the Flow State Business Podcast. I, or if you're new here, massive hello. I, uh, I'm in a little bit of shock to be honest. I wanted to share something that went on on the weekend and it definitely wasn't the episode I'd planned for today. That is 100 percent for sure. But I know that it's really important to talk about moments that are just  fantastic and you just want to celebrate it and quite honestly moments that just really challenge and floor you and can sometimes feel like a thief of energy.

And I know that this episode is going to be really, really important for those of you who are maybe going through some stuff at the moment and just wondering how you get yourself out of it, how you reframe, how you make the choice to reframe, which is a very key aspect to what I want to speak about today.

And just things around energetically, What you can do to get yourself out of a funk. So let's do a little story time. And if this is your first episode, I promise you they're not always as dramatic as this one, but it has to be shared because you guys always get the full tea. On behind the scenes of my life.

If you want to know all of that, make sure you subscribe to this podcast and come back to it. I record every single week on a Wednesday. Haven't missed a beat in forever. You're going to love being in this space because we talk about flow, business, energetics, money, wealth, being a coach, traveling the world, all the things.

Okay. So I do want you to also go ahead and save this episode just in case something happens down the track. We're not calling that in, but if you want something to reach to when something has thrown you off or you're upset and you're not quite sure how to get out of the funk, come back to this one. So on Saturday morning, We get up from a house that we're house sitting at the moment.

My girlfriend's gone overseas and I'm here in her place, which is so cozy and lovely looking after her beautiful dog. And we get up and we think we're going to go to the storage unit to go grab some more things. Now that we're here,  we just needed some extra things that we'd put away before we traveled for seven weeks.

We get there and Michael hops in because it's meant to be just a really quick pickup of something. And he's taking a little longer than usual. I'm like, Oh, that's weird. I'm sitting in the car, by the way. And he finally shows up and he says to me, we've been robbed. And I was, my first reaction was, and he's like, no, seriously, we've been robbed.

And I'm like, still not understanding what he's saying. I'm laughing because I thought he was joking. And we kind of talked to each other like that anyway, just.  And we have a lot of jokes with each other and then, and even his face, it wasn't like solemn. It was just like, no, seriously, we've been robbed.

And then I realized, Oh shit. Okay. He's being for real. So yeah, we got robbed on the weekend. You guys, our storage unit was completely trashed the robbers or the thieves. They came in the middle of the night. We didn't know all this information at the time, but  it's pieced together. So they came in the middle of the night.

They took a lot of valuable possessions. A lot. They broke into the unit. They literally cut through the roller door to get in and they took about 10, 000 worth of goods. We're estimating, cause you know, it's a storage unit. We don't know fully what they've taken until we unpack, but every single box was ripped open.

The ones that I had boxed up and taped up. And other containers we had was like, you know, those storage tubs with the leads, yet all the leads were ripped off. Oh my gosh. And not only that, because our storage unit was packed so tightly, we just sold our house in November and December. We left to go traveling for seven weeks.

So we just kind of threw stuff in there and it was very tightly packed. They had stepped over so many things. They stepped over our furnishings, obviously the boxes that were there, they stepped and destroyed probably another 20, 000 worth of pictures and furniture, personal items. And oh my gosh, you know, the worst part was they took my engagement ring.

My diamond and Sapphire rose gold engagement ring, which I designed with my hubby, like the logic behind it was, I was going to leave it in the very safe and secure storage unit because I didn't want to travel through Asia and around with it for seven weeks. So we put in a box and I put it in a very inconspicuous box as well.

Just like not even, not labeled, absolutely nothing. And it was in this, like the back part of the storage unit and they got it. Can you believe that? Like the very box that I'd hid that it's almost like they knew I'd done that, which they wouldn't have been able to. I did in my bedroom, you know, in my, my privacy of my own home.

There's no way they would have known it was there. It's just such a fluke. And. Oh my God. They took it. The one thing that for me in that whole entire unit that actually really mattered,  Oh my gosh. And it's gone. And I just wanted to share that there's moments that come to us in life, right? That really, really rock us.

I probably stared at the unit. Just totally spaced out for 10 minutes. Michael had sprung into action, gone down to get the guy at the storage unit in the head office bit. And then they'd both come back up and they were going through next steps and action. The guy at the storage unit was like so apologetic and was fantastic.

Actually. It's just like, Did all the things he's, you know, volunteered to move all our stuff from one unit to the next, because they literally cut through the roller doors. So we couldn't even lock it and close it up. And he's like, I'm going to go through all of the footage, by the way, guys, cameras everywhere in this joint, as you can imagine.

So he's like, I'm going to go frame by frame through every single footage. And he goes, it's very tedious because obviously. There's a lot of footage and we had no idea date, time, you know, who was coming in and out, et cetera. So he's like, I'm going to go through every single one. I'm going to find them.

I'm going to see if I know them. We're going to, you know, do all the things. So anyhow, all of that is just. fallen into place and it's only been like literally from this recording two days since it happened and we've had a lot more come to light since then but it's still shocking like my energy completely drained in that moment and  uh it's not even just the things that disappeared  Because I know all of that can be replaced.

Even it sucks my engagement ring. Like my immediate thought straight after that was like, it's fine. I'll just have to get a new one, something like that. And, um, but what really felt awful was how violated it felt. You know, that, that sense of someone's been through my stuff and they've taken it and we saw this video footage cause they eventually found it not long after, by the way, took them like maybe half a day, five to six hours to go find it.

And the guy at the storage unit sent me a text message. He screenshot the image and he's like, is this your bike? And there was a very clear image of a woman pushing out my bike from the storage unit. And it was definitely my bike. And just even seeing that image, I'm like, who does she think she is taking my beach cruiser out of my storage unit.

And it's just not fair. Like, you know, when you have moments like that, anger, frustration. Just literally smacked me sideways. And for a moment, it honestly really did. I had my ugly crime moment. My son was with me the whole time, by the way, he's nine. So he's processing it to going, what on earth just happened?

And he said to me, mom, I know you told me not to say this word. But I just hate them. I hate them for what they've done. And so there was this whole parenting moment I had to have there, but at the back of my mind, I'm like, I hate them too,  you know, just like, I know exactly what you mean. Oh. And I just had to remind myself, I am the master of flow.

I know flow. I know it so well. It's a part of my life. It's a part of my world. And I knew in that moment that I had to decide, do I sit in this energy or do I decide to shift from it? And I'm not saying don't acknowledge those moments because I want to talk about the process and the reframe and really talk you through everything when it comes to flow. 

You do have moments where you can feel yourself spiral out emotionally out of control. And I knew I was at that crossroads where I could have just really let it ruin my entire weekend. But no, so I started thinking about a place where I could begin changing my energy and my rhythm. And it's not the most positive place guys, but it's somewhere to begin.

And I started thinking,  okay, things could have been a lot worse.  Things could have been  way more damaged  and it could have been a lot crazier and it wasn't. And then from there, I could really start sinking into some better thoughts. You know, I'm so grateful for the things that didn't get broken. Like there was this big mirror that I absolutely love that miraculously didn't get smashed, you know?

So all these things started to really come into play and I started to see the abundance in it. I started to see. The positives in it, maybe not the abundance that might be a bit of a stretch at that time, but just the positives in it. Some things that was going to help me really uplift out of the funk.

And I said to myself, Ruby, I'm so sorry that this has happened. Experiencing a robbery and a theft and a violation of your own stuff, especially the valuable and meaningful things like the ring, for example, this is completely normal to feel this anger, this frustration, this shock. But the fact that I'm willing to seek out a shift in my vibration is incredible resilience and power.

It's incredible use of flow. It's mastery of energetics. And this is where I could feel myself really lifting and lifting and lifting. And I'll just walk you through real quick what the process looked like and what I did to reframe, because I know that, I mean, I'm really hoping none of you are going through theft or robbery, but let's say it's other things.

It could be a breakup, a friendship breakup, even it could be health stuff. It could be, you know, just more and more things like actually even recording this right now. It's not ideal because I've just had a whole weekend of disruption, but my son's just come home from school, not feeling well with a fever.

So he's in the other room, you know, laying down and it's just a little bit, you know, the day is just a bit lit all over the shop. So definitely take a minute to validate whatever feelings you're going through before releasing them. Now, I know that this is probably not. The most common practice to do, but to me, this just really works and take it.

If it works for you, I truly believe that you can release feelings quickly that don't acknowledge an abundant frame of mind for you. Like, of course, it's okay to feel upset at that. It was unfair and that it was unexpected and why me, and I could have gone through all of that. And it's okay to feel very frustrated.

My feelings are valid, of course, but I choose to move forward and I choose to move forward quickly. Okay. I choose to fold time around it. I choose not to fester on it. I choose not to simmer on this very limiting belief system. And I set myself a time limit. I actually gave myself 20 to 30 minutes just to feel and cry and  I don't know.

Just like give the boys a really big hug. Michael was so comforting. He's really good at just moving on such an Aquarius, but you know, it just moves on and I was just like venting so hardcore. I had to go for a walk outside and just like, Oh, there was a pillow there in the storage unit, grabbed the pillow, screamed into it.

You betcha. I did. I just released the emotional charge. Then I committed to shifting my focus. Okay. So this is what I did to reframe it. There was probably about 30 K worth of damages or stolen goods. So and that's, as far as I know, they're just money and possessions. Everything is a renewable resource.

The only thing that's not a renewable resource is time and energy. So instead of seeing this as a deep loss of 30 K worth of goods that I'll never get back in my engagement ring and oh my gosh, I had to remind myself there in there. Okay. That things that were taken can absolutely be replaced. I'm an abundant, wealthy woman, and I know that money in abundance always returns to me multiplied.

In fact, I was starting to share it with some friends just because I needed an outlet. And I just said to them, they're like, are you all right? Are you all right? I'm like, I'm actually good. I think I just needed to say it out loud and acknowledge that I'm someone that can create wealth and security and there's opportunities.

And I'm not even that upset. about losing everything. I think I was more so upset about being violated, of course. So then I started to better understand the energy that no theft can take away my ability to rebuild what I already have. And the universe is always here to restore stuff to me tenfold. It always has.

And it's always in unexpected, even bigger and better ways.  Honestly, like where I've built up.  The way I have this relationship with money and cashflow and the business right now is I know that my truth is I've already made more than 30, 000 in a short period of time. I've made that in like 10 minutes before.

And I will, again, the real loss isn't the money because money is so renewable at this point. It's just the energy of lack. That's the real loss. And that I have control over that I can reframe. So that's the reframe. And then now we shift into gratitude and we shift into protection energy. So this is really going to be useful for those of you.

Like if you are going through health stuff, how you protect your energy around that and things that are outside of your control, you might be waiting for results. For example, if you're going through breakups, how you protect your energy around closing off portals that no longer serve you and wondering what your ex is doing or wondering why your best friend decided never, ever, ever to text back.

You know why that friendship fell over, even in these moments of loss, you can anchor to what still feels abundant and intact. And some of my favorite affirmations for these moments where you are shifting from a sense of lack and spiraling downwards to gratitude and protection is I'm safe. My loved ones are safe.

Nothing is more valuable than my inner peace and well being. No one can disturb your inner peace, except you. No one can come in there and steal that from you unless you let them. Like I said earlier, you know, coming back to this thing where it could be a lot worse. It could be way worse. I'm so glad it wasn't my house, for example, you know, that it was a storage unit and I'm grateful for all that is still mine.

I looked around and, you know, like ultimately I'm leaving the storage unit, 30, 000 worth of things are gone and I'm still hopping into my Mercedes Benz and I'm still driving to a beautiful house that I'm house sitting. I still live on the beach. I still have my health, full health, still able to buy beautiful, healthy food.

I still have my family around me. Every single one of them are in great health and I'm so grateful for that. You know, like start listing out some things. I am surrounded by abundance and protection. I trust that everything lost is going to be restored in an even greater way. And then I visualized, cause I knew they were moving my, the stuff that was still good into another unit.

And I started visualizing this golden shield of protection around me. And then that extended to my family that extended to the new unit that everything was moving into. That extended to my car, that extended to the house we're living in, that extended to my family, my friends, my community, my business, my money, my wealth, my belongings.

I stepped into this energy of security and abundance and restoration, and it felt like honey to my energy. You know, it just really felt so soothing and so beautiful. And from there, I decided that I was going to take one very deep breath. Abundant, empowering action. Even if in that moment, it still felt relatively powerless because we're waiting on the insurers.

We're waiting on the police. We're waiting on reports. We're waiting on evidence. I reclaimed my control by doing. One small proactive thing, and maybe it was a series of things that we did, but you know, whatever it was like the first thing we reported the theft, we secured all of our remaining valuables.

We took the things that we really cared about. Like I have this beautiful onyx lamp that I just love cost me a lot of money to buy. That's come with me now to my friend's house and it's right here. I also decided I'm going to shop myself a beautiful new outfit. They took some of my clothes. So excuse me, I'm just going to buy a new outfit.

And it's going to be my symbol of abundance. And I'm still in control of my wealth, my wardrobe.  I made an energetic shift by just clearing the space. Like I, you know, I've got a sage stick that I was, Sage stick, is that what you call it? Sage Bunch that I always have with me. So a saged, you know, my energy out, set an intention for renewal and just like I just stopped feeling like a victim.

And I also, by the way, posted it on Instagram because I tell you guys the full thing and I tell Instagram a short version of it because. It's just easier to do shorter versions on Instagram. I got so many amazing messages. Like I can't even tell you thousands and thousands of messages. And I'm so sorry if I didn't get back to every single person that messaged me back and the ones that did thank you so much.

Like honestly, that just lifting up advice and all the things that, you know, like to do and energetically. you know, moving through stuff with me, which I'm so grateful for. And then there was some that I love you guys for it. Um, who just wrote like, seriously, like F word, F word, F word. And all these things is just like, that's bullshit.

Or like, can't believe that happened. Or, you know, like people messaging me saying, You were definitely targeted. People have been watching you. They must have known like you had all this stuff. And I'm like, Oh no, no, no. I don't really want that. That feeling doesn't feel good. That feels like a spiral down type of feeling.

Like, even though I know whoever, you know, a few people had written that was supporting me, I knew that I had to put Me back into a place of agency and flow, you know, I had to take control of that. So whenever stuff like this happens, if let's say you're letting people into your world and you're letting them know, like, you know, like you've got some health issues, there's always going to be a ton of advice that people give you.

You have to decide what you're going to take with you and what you're not. Same with a breakup, same with stuff that you're going on, that's going on in your current relationship. Whatever it is, you know, you have to really decide what feels empowering and what doesn't. And this is what's really helped me and what gets me back into flow.

Here I am on a Monday, I'm back into recording in the podcast studio, AKA my friend's home office, which I'm loving. And I am back coaching and that didn't affect me. Like I could have been like, Nope, I've been a victim of theft and robbery. I'm going to take all of Monday off. And if you need that, you need that.

But I'm like, no, my vibration is high in my business. My vibration feels amazing when I'm podcasting.  So I'm going to do it and it's all good. I'm not pushing myself and I'm not pushing the feelings away, but I just know that this is what elevates me. I'm choosing an upward energy shift. So think about how you can spiral upward  Instead of downward and choose one thing that makes you feel good for the day.

To me, I went shopping. I went to a favorite cafe, a sushi cafe with my son, and we listened to music and we jammed out and we did lots of light and joyful things. We reminded ourselves that whatever happened on the weekend was not defining the rest of it,  that we're bigger than this moment. You know, we're so much bigger than it.

And I know like, everything's replaceable, like the ring, the furniture, the things that we lost, they're just things, but what's not replaceable is who I choose to be in this moment. Like I could sit in the anger and the heartbreak and the unfairness, but I won't because I know everything flows back to me in bigger, better, more aligned ways.

I even said to one of my friends, I just feel like things are being rearranged. I mustn't need those things because something big is trying to come through and it's just a rearrangement of my energy field and the frequency of it's just going to shift and it's going to be great. And if I get that stuff back, that's awesome.

And if I don't, that's awesome. It's just neutral. You know, everything's always, always, always here for us, not against us. And I really want to affirm that if you have sensed, like if you had a sense of loss recently in whatever form that looks like. You know, to tell yourself that you're still powerful, you have the ability and the agency to control your energy and that you can choose peace, that you can choose trust and that you can choose to move forward.

Okay. It doesn't define your reality today. You can still go ahead and run a very successful business today. Go be the incredible, powerful CEO that you are. You can go ahead and make a lot of money today and go ahead and impact a lot of lives today for the positive. And whatever feels lost or unfair, it will come back to you in ten folds.

Okay. Say this after me. Something incredible  is already on its way to me  and I'm open to receiving it.  On that note, I hope you have an amazing flow based day. Again, thank you so much for all of your gorgeous and beautiful support. I definitely didn't plan to have this episode out there today. Oh, also guys.

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Love you all so much. And I will catch you in the very next episode. Bye my loves.